Today was the long awaited referral appointment! Thank you for praying and asking how it went (many emails inquiring).
“It was an interesting day to say the least! It was an emotional roller coaster. Started out with a very mean lady who basically wanted us gone, telling us there were no children in the age range listed in our home study for foreigners to adopt. (While she’s talking –I’m looking at the hundred or so binders on the shelf behind her, thinking… what??). We thought we were about to leave the office empty-handed after almost a year of paper gathering– for no reason!
Then all of sudden she was called out by someone for a different issue and she never came back. Another lady came in and the whole scene changed. She was nice and willing to help. So bottom line, we left with a referral.
So, we are making plans to travel tomorrow and hopefully meet children on Friday.”
Back to Wendy: We both managed to remain composed when the lady acted as if we were wasting our time and hers although I did feel tearful and wondered if I was really naive as she made us out to be. We thought our parameters were broad, but I can also see where we would have broadened them (in our home study) if we were to do it over. Anyone who is interested in more detail ask me about that later in case I forget to come back to the thought.
Our appointment was scheduled for one hour. I think we left after 2 1/2 hours. I was thankful they didn’t keep strict hours in this case or we would have left without a referral. I was also thankful a friend was willing to watch Niya. We had entertained the idea of bringing her to the appointment since it was “only one hour” and she can nicely play iPad games with headphones, but it was a nervous sort of time and I think it would have made made for further distraction from the task at hand. (Thank you, Tineke!)
I know you want the bottom line…”Who are you adopting?” I can tell you that we still don’t know if this will be a match, but we are traveling a substantial distance to meet the kids and see for ourselves. We need to think it could work and say “yes” in person and they do too. They are a sibling group of three. A boy-age nine, a girl-age 7, and a boy-age 4.
Please continue to pray for our family! We have a long drive tomorrow (day 2), need to get pet sitters on short notice, research the best route, find a hotel, shop for gifts for orphanage children (?), pack, etc. It ended up being a quick turn around due to some changes in the our school schedule, but the changes allow for us to hopefully meet the kids this Friday, instead of waiting until Monday. Every extra day helps. We want to maximize what we can accomplish over our kids’ spring break (now through March 30).
Stay tuned for Friday (day 3)!