Day 1

Today was the long awaited referral appointment! Thank you for praying and asking how it went (many emails inquiring).

Quoting Chris:
“It was an interesting day to say the least! It was an emotional roller coaster. Started out with a very mean lady who basically wanted us gone, telling us there were no children in the age range listed in our home study for foreigners to adopt. (While she’s talking –I’m looking at the hundred or so binders on the shelf behind her, thinking… what??). We thought we were about to leave the office empty-handed after almost a year of paper gathering– for no reason!

Then all of sudden she was called out by someone for a different issue and she never came back. Another lady came in and the whole scene changed. She was nice and willing to help. So bottom line, we left with a referral.

So, we are making plans to travel tomorrow and hopefully meet children on Friday.”

Back to Wendy: We both managed to remain composed when the lady acted as if we were wasting our time and hers although I did feel tearful and wondered if I was really naive as she made us out to be. We thought our parameters were broad, but I can also see where we would have broadened them (in our home study) if we were to do it over. Anyone who is interested in more detail ask me about that later in case I forget to come back to the thought.

Our appointment was scheduled for one hour. I think we left after 2 1/2 hours. I was thankful they didn’t keep strict hours in this case or we would have left without a referral. I was also thankful a friend was willing to watch Niya. We had entertained the idea of bringing her to the appointment since it was “only one hour” and she can nicely play iPad games with headphones, but it was a nervous sort of time and I think it would have made made for further distraction from the task at hand. (Thank you, Tineke!)

I know you want the bottom line…”Who are you adopting?” I can tell you that we still don’t know if this will be a match, but we are traveling a substantial distance to meet the kids and see for ourselves. We need to think it could work and say “yes” in person and they do too. They are a sibling group of three. A boy-age nine, a girl-age 7, and a boy-age 4.

Please continue to pray for our family! We have a long drive tomorrow (day 2), need to get pet sitters on short notice, research the best route, find a hotel, shop for gifts for orphanage children (?), pack, etc. It ended up being a quick turn around due to some changes in the our school schedule, but the changes allow for us to hopefully meet the kids this Friday, instead of waiting until Monday. Every extra day helps. We want to maximize what we can accomplish over our kids’ spring break (now through March 30).

Stay tuned for Friday (day 3)!

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11 Responses to Day 1

  1. Maggie says:

    God is amazing how he works everything out, even occupying a mean lady so the nice one can help you! I woke up and prayed for you guys right around the time you were supposed to have your appointment, as well as several times during it probably, thanks to baby Lanier’s very comfortable seat on my bladder! 🙂 We will continue to pray for you in the next step.


    • bergfam5 says:

      Yes! That so what I said afterwards. At least beginning with her, we were able to appreciate her absence and see how we had it much better once she was gone. Thank you!

  2. Maryn says:


  3. We are so sure that God will direct you path and I’m praying that He will give you confirmation if this is the family for you. He makes no mistakes. I grew up in a family of 7. Love -gram

  4. Rachel Robbins says:

    Thanks so much for the updates! Praying for you in all sorts of ways…

    Love you guys, Rachel for our nest

  5. Liz Bergstrom says:

    Everything will turn out the way it was planned, before you were born. Just believe. We love you. Travel safely. Love, Mom and Dad

  6. Tara G. says:

    A Ukrainian road trip- that’ll be worth several posts in itself!! 🙂 Praying for discernment and if these are your kids, that they’ll have the courage to take the next steps. Blessings!!!!!

  7. Erinn says:

    “fear not, for I am WITH you; be not dismayed, for I AM your GOD; I will STRENGTHEN you, I will HELP you, I will UPHOLD you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10 Praying for God’s peace over you and Chris as you finalize last minute details before you leave and for that peace to go with you, coupled with wisdom and discernment, as you meet and interact with the children. What an exciting journey the LORD has prepared before you! Much love to all of you!!!

  8. Emily says:

    So excited to read about the process of your receiving your next child! I’m a friend of your sister 🙂 We are planning to adopt (domestic) soon and have gone through some paperwork already. My absolute favorite book on adoption is “Adopted for Life” by Russell Moore. Have you read it?

  9. michelle says:

    Can’t wait to hear how it went! Been praying for you all! Much love!!

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